Life will not be easier when you retire. There. I’ve said it. Despite what financial institutions might tell you in their ads about living a free and easy life, life isn’t easier. It’s different.
The Good Stuff
There are many, benefits. The flexibility to do things when you want to and not when your job permits is awesome! No more “Sunday scaries” as the freedom of the weekend comes to a close. Monday morning becomes a wonderful and peaceful time of the week! You can take an hour for a quiet breakfast, or spend time preparing a delicious lunch. You can catch a show on a weeknight comfortable in the knowledge that you’ll be able to sleep-in the next day. You no longer waste time fighting traffic to arrive at work, or to get home, and your gas bill drops significantly. You have more time to devote to the things and people that you love.
What’s so bad about that? It sounds magnificent and a prize worth reaching for, and it is. But, it takes a lot of adjustment to feel comfortable in this new season of life.
Some Of The Trickier Changes
Questions Of Identity
Life is so different that it feels disorienting for a long time. You don’t have somewhere that you have to be every week. You have all these skills and all this experience that’s not being used anymore. It’s jarring the first time someone asks, “What do you do?” and you don’t have an easy answer. It takes time to figure this out, and in the meantime there’s a lot of mumbling and harkening back to, “I used to be a ______.”
Money Stresses
In all likelihood, you are managing with less money these days as you rely on your savings and/or a pension. You conserve money by not commuting to work, shopping for work clothes or buying as much take-out. But, you also find yourself carefully considering your holiday choices, purchases for the home and your entertainment budget. You will find yourself using the resources of the public library much more often.
The Time Warp
It can feel boring, like you’re waffling around and meandering through the week because the speed of living is more steady and less rushed. If something doesn’t get finished today, there’s more time tomorrow. That’s a novel concept to get used to!
You can actually get less done in a day because there’s no defined schedule to anchor your activities. If it doesn’t matter whether you do the laundry today, or two days from now, you can suddenly find that you’re forgetting to do it entirely – until you run out of clean socks.
Friendships Shuffle
It can also feel lonely without having your work colleagues around and spending more time at home than you’ve done since lockdown. It becomes your job to regularly reach out to friends and keep those connections fresh. You lose some friends because they’re in a different stage of life than you are, and they can’t meet you for coffee on a Monday morning. They’re still working full time. But, you also might find yourself reconnecting with friends who retired before you did, precisely because you’re in the same stage of life now and can meet up on a weekday.
The New Life
You don’t know who you are anymore. You go to the library more often. You’re not sure what day you do laundry, and you’re often arranging to meet up with friends. Life is different now. But mostly, you have opportunities to grow. You have more control over what you do, where you go, and who you hang out with. This can be challenging, and not necessarily easier, but it is rewarding.
What is the most surprising thing about your life after retiring? Comment below.
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