I was listening to therapist, KC Davis on a podcast this morning,* when she said something that was mind-blowing to me. When we were kids, we were raised to finish our chores first and then we’d get to play. Rest was seen as a reward for getting our work done. Davis pointed out that as… Continue reading Rest Is A Right, Not A Reward
Category: Family Life
We Bring The Meaning
The meaning we give to an experience is unique to us. A butterfly landing on a sunflower can be a beautiful collection of colours to one person, but to another person it represents a visit from a beloved ancestor. We often believe that we know how an experience that we shared with others, effected them.… Continue reading We Bring The Meaning
What can you do in one hour?
A lot. It’s amazing how setting a timer makes all the difference. Somehow knowing that you’ll only be stuck doing a chore for a limited time helps. It tricks the mind into making a large unpleasant task manageable. Racing Creates Focus. There is also something called the Urgency Effect. With a timer set, you tend… Continue reading What can you do in one hour?
Appreciation For The Dog
Our dog speaks human much better than we speak dog. We don’t give her credit for her ability. She uses our body language, our tone of voice and our words, to understand and respond to us. She’s worked hard to learn many phrases and commands. I don’t think I’ve put the same energy and concentration… Continue reading Appreciation For The Dog
Table Talk
Logic tells me that it’s easiest to find time to talk with people I see regularly. Experience tells a different tale. Finding time to have meaningful discussions with the family members who live with me, is a challenge. There’s Lots Of Small Talk. We talk all the time but it’s snatches of conversation about schedules… Continue reading Table Talk
Mundane Treasure
Graduations, weddings, births, holidays and celebrations: these are events which I’ve spent a lot of energy, time and money on over the years. I tell myself that they are important occasions that deserve my attention because I’m making memories for myself and those involved. But when I look back at my favourite times with people… Continue reading Mundane Treasure
The Multi-Generational Home
It has been said recently, that this latest generation of new adults has it worse-off financially than several of the generations before them.* Those of us who have retired benefitted from the growth and comfort of the late 20th and early 21st centuries. Today’s new adults are struggling to afford the basics in life: shelter,… Continue reading The Multi-Generational Home
Retired, And Now What? 