It’s discouraging to toil away at something that’s meaningful to you and not receive any recognition. You start to think, “What’s the point? Why bother when no one else seems to care?” But that is the exact moment when this will help: the mere exposure effect. What is the mere exposure effect? It’s a psychological… Continue reading Fortifying Your New Direction
Category: Finding new skills
Get Used To Making Mistakes
Part 2 on The Benefits of Making Mistakes (click here to read part 1) It’s important to make mistakes. I’m not kidding. If you’re getting life more than 85% correct, you’re not in an optimal place for learning. “That means a 15% error rate, which allows someone to have space to improve without giving up…”***… Continue reading Get Used To Making Mistakes
Celebrate Your Wins
It’s both physically and literally difficult to pat yourself on the back. When you accomplish small steps, do you celebrate? It’s a foreign idea for me to get my head around. It seems like bragging or “blowing your own horn:” embarrassingly self-serving. However, there is value in celebrating those wins. A Checklist Is Not Sufficient… Continue reading Celebrate Your Wins
Pressing buttons
I use my computer as a tool. I’m sure there are many things that it can do that I have no idea about. Today, I found one by having the courage to press a button. The fear surrounding pressing the wrong button and causing digital chaos keeps us, from getting the most out of our… Continue reading Pressing buttons
Your Ship Has Not Sailed
I was guilty of this too. I thought that because I was retired there were certain ships that had left my harbour forever: boats that I would never travel on, and places I would never explore. This year, I’ve learned a lot, but the biggest ah-ha moment came when I realized that this thinking was… Continue reading Your Ship Has Not Sailed
Affirming the Positive
Recently, I heard someone say that positive self-talk was “food for the brain.” I have some affirmation cards that a good friend gave me and I review them from time to time, and choose a new one to put next to my desk. I thought I was doing well to have them visible. However, if… Continue reading Affirming the Positive
Retiring The Excuse
It’s a lot harder to say NO these days. I used to have a ready excuse for not wanting to do something: “Sorry, I’m so busy with work.” It was a legitimate reason. I was often extremely busy and had difficulty balancing any added commitments. But if I’m honest, it was also a handy excuse.… Continue reading Retiring The Excuse
Learning What You Don’t Know: step two in the process
According to psychology, there are four steps to acquiring mastery over a new set of skills.* At first, you don’t know what you don’t know: ignorance is bliss. But then the thorny second stage begins, and there’s a wave of overwhelm as you realize just how much you don’t know. I’m in this stage now… Continue reading Learning What You Don’t Know: step two in the process
“How Are You Doing?”
We all need the words. With accurate words we can clearly communicate our experiences to others, find others who share our experience, and have others understand what we’re going through. Rarely has, “I’m fine,” in response to, “How are you doing?” transmitted any useful information. Is it time to banish these banal responses? Word Jail.… Continue reading “How Are You Doing?”
Enjoying A Sideways Move
In my early years of teaching I made my first move from teaching kindergarten to teaching grade one, and I was met with a strange response from the parent community: congratulations. It made me laugh, and slightly annoyed. People outside the field of education equate an opportunity to teach a higher grade as a promotion.… Continue reading Enjoying A Sideways Move